Becoming a parent is often painted as a joyful chapter—but for many, it can come with unexpected grief, anxiety, and mental health challenges. Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week is a vital reminder that behind the baby photos and milestones, many mothers and families are silently navigating postpartum depression (PPD). This week, we’re opening the conversation to support both new moms and the partners who love them.
What Is Postpartum Depression (PPD)?
Postpartum Depression is a serious, but treatable condition that affects individuals after childbirth. While “baby blues” are common for a few weeks after delivery, PPD lasts longer and interferes with daily life. Symptoms often include persistent sadness, withdrawal, lack of joy in the baby, hopelessness, postpartum irritability, and sleep or appetite changes.
When Was Postpartum Depression Discovered?
References to maternal sadness go back to ancient times—Hippocrates called it “puerperal melancholy.” However, PPD was not formally recognized by the medical community until the 1980s–90s, leaving many generations of women without answers or support.
Prevalence of Postpartum Depression in the U.S.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), around 1 in 8 new mothers experience symptoms of postpartum depression. Other studies suggest that number may be closer to 1 in 7, especially when factoring in stay-at-home mom depression and unreported cases.
Among fathers, about 1 in 10 men experience paternal postpartum depression, according to a 2010 study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA).
Risk increases for:
- Low-income households
- Women of color
- First-time or isolated mothers
This underscores the need for inclusive postpartum depression resources that reach beyond traditional settings.
Grieving Your Past Self While Stepping Into Parenthood
A common feeling in early parenthood is the grief of your past self before your baby. This isn’t about regret—it’s about navigating the transition into parenthood. You might miss your independence, your freedom, your focus, your confidence, or your ability to move through the world without the reminder of responsibility. Grief doesn’t mean you’re failing or ungrateful—it means you’re human. It’s okay to simultatenously feel the impact of both love and loss.
Changes in Relationship Dynamics
Parenthood can shake even the strongest relationships. Tension, miscommunication, and emotional exhaustion are common, especially in the early months. PPD anger and postpartum rage—intense, irrational outbursts—can be symptoms of untreated depression. If this sounds familiar, know that you’re not alone—and it’s not your fault. Therapy, rest, and sometimes medication for postpartum rage can help restore emotional stability and connection between partners.
Nighttime Anxiety With a Newborn
For many new mothers, the quiet of night brings the loudest fears: “What if the baby stops breathing?” “What if I don’t hear them cry?” Nighttime anxiety with newborns is incredibly common and worsened by sleep deprivation, past trauma, and hormonal changes.
Simple strategies can help:
- Sleep shifts with a partner
- Breathing exercises or mindfulness apps
- Talking with a therapist trained in perinatal mental health
If your nights are filled with worry instead of rest, you’re not weak—you’re in need of support.
Frequently Asked Questions
🍼 How to be a good mom when depressed?
Being a good mom means showing up, even on the hard days. Love and effort—even imperfect—are powerful. Seeking help is a strong and loving act.
📍 Where can I find support for PPD?
Start with your doctor or OB-GYN. You’re not alone—and you don’t have to navigate postpartum depression without help. At Phoenix Arise, we offer therapy and resources tailored to new parents experiencing PPD, postpartum rage, nighttime anxiety, and everything in between.
You can start by reaching out to one of our compassionate therapists who specialize in perinatal and maternal mental health. We also recommend Postpartum Support International for virtual groups, peer support, and additional tools.
😠 How to deal with postpartum rage?
Pause. Breathe. Ask for help. Postpartum rage is a valid symptom of PPD. Therapy and medication can help regulate emotions and teach healthier ways to respond.
⏳ How long does postpartum anger last?
It varies. Without treatment, it can last months. With professional help, many see improvement in a few weeks.
💤 How long does postpartum depression last?
Untreated, PPD can last a year or more. With care—like therapy or medication—most people begin to feel better in 3–6 months.
👨 Can men have postpartum depression?
Yes. Partners can experience depression after the baby is born, especially when they feel helpless, isolated, or disconnected. Men deserve support too.
🤝 How can I help my wife/partner with postpartum depression?
Listen without fixing. Encourage your partner to rest, nourish their body, and speak to a professional. Tell your partner that this is not their fault—and she is not alone.
You’re Not Alone — And You Don’t Have to Stay Silent
At Phoenix Arise, we believe healing begins with truth, support, and community. If you’re navigating postpartum depression, anxiety, or the quiet grief of identity shifts—you don’t have to do it alone.
Whether you’re a new mother, a loving partner, or simply someone trying to make sense of this new chapter, we’re here to walk beside you.
👉 Connect with a therapist who understands
👉 Explore support for postpartum mental health
👉 Visit our resource center for partners and parents
You were never meant to rise from the ashes alone. At Phoenix Arise, we rise together—stronger and supported.